Hello again my children, family and friends and world that finds these words. Today was another difficult morning for me. I have been on and off the phone with the Child Support Enforcement Agency since at my reluctance signing away the rights to my precious children. Throughout this process back when the wage garnishment began, I have been living off of $11,300 roughly around that for about three years now. For those that may be unfamiliar that paltry amount of money is below the current Federal Poverty Line. I would like to point out that the point of me writing today is not simply to complain about money because it most certainly is not ABOUT the money, but people need money to live, even a half decent life. The only reason I was able to survive at all was because I had the good graces of my Mother, God bless her a million times over.
As I lay down to bed each night I cannot help but wonder, what about the men who do not have this option? What do they do? When the Child Support Enforcement Agency takes so much money they cannot afford to live? Well I can certainly after speaking with many many individuals tell you that a great number end up living extremely cheaply in squalor like housing. By this effect, if said men are trying to pay court fees, lawyers because they don’t have requisite knowledge of the law to be pro se(self represented legal representatives), paying for rent, for food, maybe some minor form of entertainment?, you get the point I am trying to make here I believe dear readers, they cannot afford it. If one is back due on said support the court imposes fines, upon those unpaid fines jail time, which now means these people are not working and making money to pay said fine. The area they are able to afford to live in is likely one of high crime and these men often in mental anguish and not able to afford help resort to alcohol, drugs, or other desperate measures because they don’t know what to do with all this pain and against this State stacked deck. So what then happens? They are churned through our ugly system of law, only perpetuating a problem of recidivism, mental illness, and criminal offenses. Is this the free America we know and love? Does this REALLY happen in OUR country? We can’t be so uncivilized..but we are.
I was told today that the money that has been garnished from my own wages is in limbo until the adoption of the children goes through probate court, which the Supervisor is sure will take less than a year, again by the own good graces of a lovely partner I am able to stay above the awful line of depravity I outlined for you above. This cannot go on, ladies and gentlemen, Mothers and Fathers, THIS CANNOT GO ON! This disgusting system has to change and something must be done, I don’t know entirely how to do that at the moment but I will dedicate a part of my life to trying to figure it out. There are of course groups for Father’s Rights, one that introduces legislation every so often but it is ran by a man with no income, who is a sociopathic, racist self righteous ass of an individual, whom I am convinced suffers from several maladies of mental illness. People like that make these issues about gender, it is not an issue of gender, not really. In this particular paradigm the deck of the State is stacked against men, in other areas it is women’s issues, however one thing is very clear, Child Support, Family Court, and the Criminal Justice System are a broken mess that need an enema.
One of the most particularly glaring “ugly” patches or black eye’s if you will on the Stark County Family Court is the way all the lawyers know and interact with one another. Now, I know what you may say and definitely what the lawyers would say is that they need to “maintain a working relationship” so forth and so on, mm well to the client that doesn’t seem fair I must say. This system of law is built around an adversarial system, it is built upon the premise whether in Family Court or criminal to prove the other side is lacking evidence and lying in open court, it is BY NATURE adversarial. Should judges be allowed to commiserate with lawyers over lunch and dinner? (A common occurrence in Stark County Courts mind you) Should they be allowed to be non elected officials in Family Court but rather appointed positions? These people…are making decisions that will affect our lives forever and they are not even elected officials. Family Court has no jury, no third party impartial way for peers to decide innocence or guilt or what may or may not be “in the best interest of the child” other than an often biased and naive, LAWYER that Stark County Fmaily Court calls a “Guardian ad Litem”. Divorce, Family Law, is a nightmare not only in Stark County but everywhere in this country, a friend who is a lawyer once said to me “I stay out of that building because nothing they do there makes any sense, you can’t even call it law.” Is this the kind of system we want making those decisions for us?
In closing these thoughts today I focus now on thoughts of my children, I had a dream the other night we were at the water park at the Columbus Zoo again, the three of us happy, we didn’t have a care in the world floating in inner tubes down the lazy river. I love and miss you my beautiful girls, and I can’t wait again to see your smiling faces, sincerely your father,
Nathaniel Evan Chuchanis Moran.
